Fertility Part 4

I kind of left this topic hanging when I posted about it way back in January!

Here is an update if you would like to know........(it may be TMI but you have been warned plus it is a little long)

We met with Dr. Gurtcheff on February 25th. After talking with her and giving her a history of our fertility problems, she diagnosed me with LPD (Luteal Phase Defect). I was sad that it really is my fault we can't get pregnant but we are hopeful that our new doctors, who specialize in this, will be able to help us get pregnant.

The plan for me:

1.  Baseline ultrasound- This makes sure my lining is acting like it should. This ultra sound was not too bad but a little uncomfortable. Everything looked like it should so it was on to the next step.
2. Blood work- Checks hormone levels and blood type, everything was good here
3. Water ultrasound- Checks that there isn't any blockage or polyps that could cause problems, this was miserable! Luckily I should only have to get this once, everything looked "beautiful" according to my doctor (this was the most expensive)
4. Clomid for 5 days. I had taken Clomid for 4 months before I got pregnant last time but the side effects this time were worse. The dosage and timing was the same as the last time I took it. Let me tell you that I now feel for all of the women going through "the change!" I had hot flashes like a menopausal woman, not even kidding. You know when all you want to do is run around outside in 40 degree weather with a Popsicle and shorts, there is something wrong. :)
5. 2nd Ultrasound. This ultrasound is to see if I have any mature follicles so that we can trigger ovulation. (if you don't know what all of that means, try WebMd) Everything looked good here too.
6. HCG. That's right folks, the same thing that all of those crazy people use to lose weight, it makes you ovulate. I had to take a shot in the stomach to cause my ovulation, I made Adam give it to me. I am not scared of needles or shots but when it is not a doctor giving it, then it is a little unnerving. Hubby did a good job.
7. Progesterone. They had me start taking this after the HCG to make the "environment" in my body acceptable to have a viable pregnancy. Can I just say Progesterone is messy!
8. After this we play the waiting game. I got a blood test on the 27th of March to find out if we were pregnant. I did not sleep the night before and I forgot to ask when I would get my results. I was a nervous mess ALL day. Around 3:30 the doctor called and told us that our test was NEGATIVE :(

So that brings us to now. I was devastated, upset, angry, jealous, etc. At the same time I am ready to get started again. This stuff is not cheap so hopefully something happens soon or we may have to wait to start a family until we save some more money, to pay for them to get here. This process is cheaper than IVF (which we shouldn't need to do) but it still costs. The plan for this month is the same as last (minus the water ultrasound) and will be, unless it has been 4-6 months and nothing happens then we will have to try something else. I am not trying to complain or ask for pity because honestly I am so grateful for medicine that can help us have children when we are struggling on our own. I want to blog all of this so that when I am a mom, someday hopefully soon, and up all night with a screaming baby I can look back and remember how lucky I am to have that baby and how much I wanted them. I also hope that if anyone reading this is struggling to get pregnant, just know you are not alone and if you have any questions or just need to talk I am an open book.

Part 3

We aren't pregnant yet (24 months later) and sometimes I feel like maybe we are not meant to have children. Maybe we are just supposed to be the cool aunt and uncle who travel the world and buy the best gifts? Except we don't travel but we do give some awesome gifts. The truth is though I really do want a child, our child, but maybe we are just not cut out for that.

There are days, like today, that I feel like we will never have a child in our home and that maybe for some reason this is part of the Lord's plan that I don't understand.
The last little while has been rough, if you can't tell by the beginning of this post.
    The doctor's office called back in Septemeber to remind me of my appointment, my appointment that was supposed to be my 10 week appointment, the appointment that would let me know that there really was a baby inside of me, the appointment most moms-to-be wait for. I know that the nurse felt horrible that she had made the mistake to call me and I told her politely that I had miscarried the month before so I would not need that appointment. Of course I was at work but as soon as I got home I broke down. It was yet another reminder that I was broken that sure I got pregnant but yet there was not going to be a baby, there hadn't been a baby in almost four weeks. There would be no exciting news to share, no nurseries to dream about, there was nothing.
  Then I got a call from the doctor a few weeks after that. I was surprised since I hadn't talked to the doctor in a while. They told me that they wanted me to get an HSG. I asked them if it was necessary because I had been pregnant in August so there shouldn't really be any thing wrong??? They said this is what the doctor wants to do. I felt defeated because that means they still don't think I can get pregnant with out help.
Fast forward to this week....
My cycles have started going wacky again but the doctor won't put me on Clomid again until I get my test done, which I am hoping to take care of here soon. It feels like we are back at square one again because with my cycles being all weird again it is hard to know what my body is doing which makes it hard to get pregnant. Hopefully this HSG will give some insight or at least cause the doctor to put me back on Clomid. I have made an appointment with a RE (reproduction endocrinologist) for the end of February, but maybe we will be blessed and a miracle will happen so that we don't have to take that next step but I guess if this is the road we have to take to get our baby here then we will take it.
I am not sure why this all upset me so much, I guess it made me feel like I am broken, that the reason Adam isn't a dad yet is because of me,

I. AM. A. FAILURE.

Maybe I have made too many mistakes and had enough second chances or I am just not cut out to be a mom but no one has the heart to tell me.
In all honesty I don't want to get tested because what if there really is something wrong that they can't fix, maybe I don't want to know. No one has made me feel this way except for me, we really are our own worst critics.
I will keep you posted. I usually don't ask for this but if any of you that read this can keep us in your prayers I would really appreciate it.

I need your help

I am hoping to get a gift together for my hubby for our anniversary in August. I saw the idea online and I think it would be a lot of fun. The original post was a Christmas gift but I think it would be fun to start with our Anniversary. Those of you that might talk to him please don't say anything because I don't know if it will even happen yet.
If you haven't seen it the gift is where there is an envelope for each month that has everything needed for a date that month. You can see the idea here to get a better idea.

I have a few ideas, but I want to get creative and come up with something fun and affordable for 12 months. Here is where I need your help. What are some of your favorite dates? What is the most creative date you have had? What are your favorite cheap or free dates? What is something in Utah that more people should try?

Any help all of my friends in blogland can provide would be greatly appreciated.

Nothingness

I can't believe it has been a month! I have kind of fallen off the wagon with my goals so new month, fresh start. I don't have much to say but I saw this on LMM a few months ago so I thought I would use it.

I am weird because...


I can’t eat cheese unless it is melted, no string cheese for this girl.
I LOVE the Wizard of Oz.
I wish I had blue eyes.
I can’t sleep with the bedroom door open.
I have to have a glass of water and chapstick next to my bed.

I am always hot even in the middle of a snow storm.

I can get the clothes clean and folded but I can’t seem to put them away.

I love tomato sauce but hate plain tomatoes and ketchup.

I am a bad friend because...


I feel like I take more than I give. 
I am indecisive.
I forget.
I read texts and then forget to respond.

I talk when I should be listening.

I need to try harder.


I am a good friend because...


I am good at keeping secrets.

I would do anything I could to help my friends.
I love my friends and their kiddos as much as my own family.
I am loyal.

I am not afraid to show my real personality to my friends.

I am sad because...


I want a baby.
I want our baby that we lost.
I want to make everyone happy.
I feel like I am not good enough.
I wish I could finish school.

I am burned out at my job.

I feel like I keep letting people down.

I feel like I am missing support from my family when I need it most.

I am happy because...


My marriage is stronger than ever.
I have some truely wonderful blessings in my life.
My hubby is such an amazing person.

I get to serve some of the most wonderful Young Women. 
I have a warm and welcoming home to go home to.

I know I have a Father in Heaven that loves me.

I can keep trying.

I am excited for...


Summer.
Barbecues.
Getting my house organized.

Dates with the hubby.
Decorating my home.
The future.
New adventures.
Movie watching.

Cookie Baking.

Getting crafty.

Hopefully a baby someday.

Cleaning machine?

First, please let me say thank you, from the very bottom of my heart, for all of your sweet and supportive comments on the last post. I really do have the best and most supportive friends!! I am very hopefully for the new year and we have an appointment with our RE set for the end of February.

Second, it is January 9th already?! Time for me to start working on my resolutions because if I wait any longer it will be 2013 (am I the only one that thinks that year sounds like it is way too far in the future?) and I will be reporting epic failure.

This week, let's be serious and just call it this month, is all about cleaning up my house. When I say cleaning I mean going methodically through each room and getting rid of anything that doesn't fit, I don't use or that is just taking up space. This for some reason is easy and hard at the same time. I am not a hoarder but I am one of those that will keep certain things because I might need it later, then when I finally get rid of it I need it, so how do I know what to get rid of? I know this can't only happen to me, at least I hope. I have to ask myself some really important questions before I start projects:
Will this project be time consuming? Of course! I really don't know how I acquired so much useless junk that I now have to organize.
Will it make me want to scream? Probably because I always end up with little piles of things that I don't know what to do with so it just gets hidden in a drawer until the next time I decide to "clean"

When do I want to be done with this project? ASAP I am hoping no later than the end of the month but that really is optimistic on my part. It really shouldn't take long but it is a matter of getting my butt in gear when I get home from work.
Is it worth it? YES! Like I said in a previous post I get a little stressed out, cranky and not a very pleasant person to live with when I feel like my house is in unorganized chaos. It really isn't that bad because I keep my house clean we just seem to gain a lot of miscellaneous stuff through the year that makes me feel like it is cluttered.

What do you hope to accomplish? First a clean house, cleanliness is next to Godliness ya know, who doesn't want that? I hope to have a sense of accomplishment that maybe I really have set some achievable goals for this new year. I think this will be a big stepping stone to getting my life organized.

Husband is going to be helping me on the endeavour so we will see how far we get together.
Tonight we start with our bedroom and possibly our bathroom, it is on like Donkey Kong (yes I know that makes me sound 12 but I am just trying to get psyched up). Maybe I will post pictures....wish us luck.

Fertility part 3

Two years ago Adam and I started on this journey to try and bring a child into this world. Who would have thought that it would be this hard and emotional? Can I just say that infertility sucks?! I guess at the start I was one of those naive people that thought sure why not let's give it a try, it shouldn't be too hard, people get pregnant and have babies every day. The first few months I wasn't too concerned and knew it would probably take some time. After 6 months we realized that maybe this wouldn't be as easy as we thought....
I spoke to my doctor (2009) when it came close to a year  and he told me to come back at the beginning of the year (2010) if we still weren't pregnant, by this point it is no surprise we weren't. I changed doctors after we moved and I love my doctor now. I started tracking myself and seeing if I could make sense of everything, I couldn't. My doctor sat down and showed us the process he wants to take. I had some tests done that showed that my body wasn't doing some of the things it needed to.
So far we have tried a couple things and one time it worked, but unfortunately the joy was short lived.
The last couple of months we haven't done much in the way of pills or doctors, we just wanted a break from OPK's, temperatures and tracking to see if maybe it would happen on my own since my body "should" know what it needs to do and we were trying not to stress so much about it.
So this brings me to now, over two years ago we started this journey and over two years later we have nothing to show but heartache and disappointment. However, it has brought Adam and I closer together and I feel like we are a stronger couple because of this trial. Some have asked if we have thought about adoption, we have talked about it and are definitely not opposed to it but we feel like we need to try some other things before we start down that road.
My doctor wants me to have an HSG before we go back on Clomid or anything like that. I told myself the first of the year I will get this test, well guess what it is the first of the year and so I guess it is time to start following through. We have also reached the decision we will start seeing an RE (fertility specialist) in February. I keep praying and crossing my fingers that I will be pregnant before then but if not I think it is time to figure out what is wrong with my broken body and get things working like they should. We aren't sure where the new road will take us or what we are going to try but hopefully it is at least a stepping stone to something wonderful.
I don't usually ask this from people but if any of you who read this blog still, can you please keep us in your prayers?

Party

Looking at my Pinterest boards lately I am thinking that I might subconsciously be wanting to have some parties in the very near future.

There is just a little problem with me and parties.

The party in my head is never the party that actually happens...... blerg.:(

I have big ideas and I know they will be amazing but I usually run out of time or out of money, two things I can't ever seem to have enough of.

This year though, this year it is going to happen. One of my resolutions was to pay off debt and organize my time and in doing that I should be able to start having some fun!

I read other's blogs and I can't help but dream of having all of my friends over for something super amazingly awesomespice!

My ideal party would consist of:

* FOOD!!  It isn't any fun if you don't have something delicous to eat, so food is a must. I have been pining enough recipes so I don't think this will be too hard. This probably won't help with my goal of wanting to loose weight but stranger things have happend.

Source: cookiesandcups.com via Jen on Pinterest

Source: poutypinkprincess.blogspot.com via Jen on Pinterest

* THEME: yes I am one of those people. I want to throw a party with a theme, scratch that I want to throw lots of parties with themes. Mostly I just want an excuse to dress up and be out of my ordinary rutt. How fun would this Harry Potter party be?

Source: hostessblog.com via Jen on Pinterest

* DECORATIONS: Of course if you are going to have a theme you have to decorate for the occasion. This is where I usually run into a problem, I like to channel Martha Stewart and that makes decorating time consuming and never look as great as it does in my head or in her magazine. Also I need twinkle lights like a fish needs water.

Source: vi.sualize.us via Jen on Pinterest

So watch out because if I can get my life in order I am going to throw some epic parties!